Premarital Counseling

Premarital counseling is for those entering into marriage, civil unions or life partnerships. Our 6-10 session approach is strength based, solution focused and integrative based on our years of training. We use techniques from The Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Attachment Theory and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

What to Expect

We’ll learn what’s most relevant to your relationship so that your needs are met! You may have discussed some of the topics already; however, our sessions allow a more in-depth assessment and conversation. Throughout we’ll provide you with custom-tailored tools, support and guidance, evidence based techniques, insight, thought-provoking discussions and problem solving skills as needed. You’ll walk away knowing your individual and relationship strengths along with safeguards for potential challenges down the road.

“You’ve taken the time and worked hard to find the right person and relationship. Now, more than ever, it’s time to invest in the quality, longevity and health of it!”

– Ilene Kastel, M.A., LCPC
What do you consider a healthy relationship?

What does a long-term happy relationship mean?What does that look like?

There’s a reason that couples who underwent premarital counseling had a 30% higher marital success rate than those who did not.

Our Premarital Counseling is custom-tailored based on your interests and relationship needs. We are equipped to work with both monogamous + open relationships, as well as any gender identity or sexual orientation.

What You Can Achieve

Typical benefits & goals of premarital counseling:

1 Learn Your Love Languages and Attachment Styles

Identify you and your partners’ love languages and attachment style and how these affect your relationship.

2 Enhance Communication and Conflict Resolution Skills

Assess and work on your communication and conflict resolution styles. Gain insight, strategies & increased emotional intimacy.

3 Foster Longing, Desire, Physical Intimacy and Emotional Intimacy

Discuss and learn how to keep your connection, sex, and desire healthy in long-term relationships

4 Identify, Articulate, and Resolve Partner Role Expectations

Identify spoken and unspoken expectations such as: role responsibilities, boundaries in marriage, decision making, finances, parenting, etc.

5 Clarify Short and Life-long Goals and Values

Ensure alignment on life goals and values and how to negotiate differences when your preferences and ambitions contrast.

6 Mindfully Manage External Influences

Converse about family of origin issues, extended family problems, blending them and the impact on your relationship